I am a mother of three, and grandmother of two, as well as being an awarding winning, advanced Intuitive Holistic Practitioner, specialising in Fertility & Maternity Care, Energy Healer, Womb Fairy Godmother, offering guidance of womb wisdom, both ancient and new, a facilitator of healing journeys, red tents and sacred circles, female empowerment and sacred sexuality and a blog author.
I have been working with women at all stages of the female cycle, holding space, supporting healing and journeying with women from fertility and as they head towards birth and beyond for a number of years.
Having always had an interest in “new age” cultures and traditions, my knowledge has grown over the years. I am always researching, reading or attending further studies. I had shown an personal interest in a Fertility Massage course with Clare Blake. I felt it might hold an answer to my horrendous monthly bleeds, as the issues it addressed wasn’t just fertility but menstruation problems, as well as menopause. What I hadn’t prepared myself for was the huge shift I encountered during and after completing the course, not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. My husband jokes that he has married a “hippie” My response was she was always there, hidden.
I was involved in a serious car accident when I was 8 months pregnant, carrying my second child. I had to be cut free from the wreckage. I didn’t go into early labour, in fact I was nearly two weeks late, but I ended up having an emergency c-section. I was still suffering with the after effects of the accident, which resulted in me not having full mobility, not being able to get dressed or take care of my personal needs, let alone trying to look after a new born and a young child. I was then diagnosed with PND. With that came the guilt of not bonding with my new born son, the frustration of how much my life had been effected from the impact of the accident and so on.
Fast forward to May 2017: For years after my last two boys were born, my periods were horrendous. I bled excessively for several days. It wasn’t uncommon to go through a whole box of tampons and a packet of pads in one day! Quite debilitating! On Clare’s course I learnt about our monthly cycles, I learnt about the lunar cycles, our seasons and how our emotions and energies change during the month, and how we as women are often disconnected from our womb space. I had no idea that we store so much grief and trauma there! Every emotion, feeling, even past sexual relationships can leave an impact, resulting in how our menstrual cycles work for us. It was like a huge “light bulb” moment. I got it! I knew why my bleeds were so heavy! The tears started to flow slowly at first, then a torrent as I sobbed, releasing all the guilt I had felt from the car accident and not bonding with my son, the issues that we had over the years as we constantly conflicted, it all came flooding out in waves of emotions. Physically my periods have become lighter, due to the love and nourishing of my womb space. Such a transformation! I now also know that because I now embrace my monthly bleed, my transition into menopause will be so much smoother.
I was so delighted to feel this way, but at the time so angry, why wasn’t I told this by my mother, and her by her grandmother, working it way through the maternal ancestral line. Why wasn’t I taught all this at school with sex education. Why did I not know all this prior me hitting my 50’s! Which is where the shift came in. I wanted to help share this wisdom of our cycles with as many women as I could. I wanted to join the growing movement of sisterhood circles cropping up around the globe internationally, as women are beginning to reclaim their feminine powers. Red tents, sacred circles, women’s retreats are growing in numbers.
Coming together with Debbie, we drew from not only our personal but business experience to give birth to the Sacred Female Circle sisterhood. We both felt a calling that we needed to grow our tribe as did many other women in our circle of friends. A strong desire to reconnect women with ancient wisdom of our female lunar cycles, a need to offer women a space to speak freely, and feel supported and nurtured, and so our journey began.
Hi’ I’m Deb, I love sci-fi, tattoos (getting and appreciating others), being outdoors with the trees or in the rain. I’m an occasional impulse shopper and my dream job would be to work in a cinema as I find there is something magical about those places what with all the imagination that they bring to life (Plus I LOVE the smell of popcorn!) I’m a serial volunteer, a wanna be vegan and music and dancing make me happy but I don’t do it enough!
As well as being me, I am also a mum of 2, a wife (to just the one!), a daughter to a wonderful mum and a missed dad who has left this earth, a sister to three brothers, sister in law to 4 amazing ladies and a lovely brother in law and an Aunty to loads of kids (Hope you’re still with me!). I also have a lovely spaniel called Charlie and two guinea pigs. I’ve had the same best friends for 30 years and I am privileged to have many other amazing people embrace me as their friend, especially since becoming a mummy! I’m a business women, running events and marketing through my community focused business Mummies Club Waterlooville and Havant and I’m also a Relax Kids coach (Relax Kids Waterlooville), helping to create calm, confident children and adults.